Last summer we spent a long weekend at a new Holiday Inn Resort in Florida. It was a fun trip to hang out at the beach and the pool and catch up with family.
The Holiday Inn Resort had kids activities throughout the week so there were employees in charge of running these activities.
At one point we notice that some boys (maybe about 12) are messing with one of the employees and are trying to pull her into the pool. She obviously does not want to get pulled in, and is struggling against them but isn’t fighting back. I assume this is because 1) she’s an adult and 2) she works for the hotel. I’m surprised that I don’t see one of their parents step in and tell them to knock it off, but the kids stop on their own.
Great, the kids got bored with that and moved on to doing something else. No problem.
Then about 10 minutes later they’re doing it again. This time one of the kids is pulling her by the hair to try and pull her in the pool. That is the moment I transform into what I’ll refer to as “Academy Tiff”. I still do not see any parents or anyone stepping in to stop this, so I do.
I walk up to them and ask what the hell they think they’re doing? First, you NEVER pull a woman by the hair and second, they’re messing with someone who can only tell them to knock it off. She feels she can’t fight back because she’s afraid of losing her job. So I spend the next couple of minutes telling them off until I get enough “yes ma’ams” in reply that I’m convinced they’re not going to do it again and then I walk away.
Was I a jerk? Probably. Do I regret what I did? Absolutely not. The employee came up to me later and thanked me and another guest told me later she saw what I did and was glad I did it. That was fine and I appreciated it, but what really bothered me was that NO ONE else said anything to help this woman. It was completely obvious this wasn’t a game, she wasn’t having fun, she wanted them to stop, yet nobody else thought it was their place to say or do anything about it.
I know there’s a time when we should mind our own business, but there’s also a time when we should feel obligated to step in and help others.