Sometimes when you are in a bad situation, it’s difficult to ask for help. What if trying to ask for help makes the situation worse?
What if you don’t know whether or not you are in a bad situation and don’t want to overreact–but you still want to get out of the situation just in case?
Some bars in the UK have a brilliant way to signal to the staff that you are uncomfortable and need help, without making a big scene about it.
i saw this in a toilet and thought it was important and should be a thing everywhere not just lincolnshire !!!! pic.twitter.com/oO45I7gaJL
— IZ (@iizzzzzi) October 18, 2016
I have had situations in the past that didn’t feel quite right. I had one situation where I faked receiving an emergency call. I ran off into the metro, and I noticed he followed behind. I switched cars a few times, then hopped into the opposite direction train. I was glad I listened to my gut on that since he acted so strangely once I left.
This sign allows someone to signal something doesn’t feel quite right–even if the individual has no actual proof that something is going wrong.
I can understand not wanting to make a big deal if there’s no “proof”. And maybe sometimes, things will feel wrong when everything is actually okay.
But you don’t have to stay in a situation you are uncomfortable in.
I’m hoping that asking for Angela becomes a more well-known signal. It has gotten press, but I don’t think that diminishes the effectiveness. Quietly asking if Angela is there can be done in a very covert way. But trying to explain you feel unsafe takes a lot of conversation (and perhaps, can result in some confusion).
When I bartended, I had some situations where I’ve asked a customer if she’s okay. Once, I got a slight head shake from the person and was able to pull her to the side and grab our bouncer to help.
I wish this wasn’t a reality of the world we live in–but I’m glad that more people are thinking of ways to help.